After reading my friends blog http://phoenix-thebalancingact.blogspot.com i decided that i would take on that topic for today’s blog post.
So are you ready yet?
We actually are doing well this year. still waiting on the price of the bird and other meat from the butchers, the veg will be sorted out with thanks to Abel & Cole and anything else shall be got in sainsburys using the points we have built up over the year.
Gift wise .. i have a box that over the year i stock up with gifts or what i can use as gifts throughout the year. I also start planning on the hand-made gifts just after Samhain. i am not too worried this year though. we celebrate Yule and not Christmas and yet the mass market crap about christmas still winds me up as it has lost its true meaning. I get slated a lot from different people as apparently my kids are missing out on the christmas experience but for me i get confused as to why non xtians celebrate it after all that is the whole point of the 25th of december, it is the xtians way of celebrating jesus’ birth. whether he was actually born on that day or not isn’t the point. Lots do tend to use it as more of the Georgian way of celebrations, too much food, too much drink and too much showing off what you can afford to buy, or in most cases how much debt you can get yourself in just so you can let your kids go and boast at school about who has the latest gadget, phone, game etc. whether or not they needed them or are old enough to play them they get them so ‘they don’t miss out on what every one else is doing and getting’ I am all for the tradition of this time of year, the actual meaning. For us not only is yule the shortest day of the year, when we celebrate the birth of the sun and when the oak king wins his battle again meaning the days are now getting longer. It is the day we look forward to the up and coming spring. a time to gather with family and friends and to join in with the feasting. Yes we give gifts and have a few of our own traditions. we have a Yule tree, gifts and decorate the house with traditional decorations most of which we make. We have a Yule fire outside, as we are not as lucky as some in having an inside fire and on that fire we burn our yule log. which is made of wood not a chocolate one. i try to take the kids out for a walk although now they are older tend to just want to sit inside and chill after food and as the day is for us all i don’t push it. we spend days preparing for the feast we (my family and friends who come round) all help, whether we bake, prep the veg, make the onion marmalade, cranberry sauce and the rest of the things i enjoy making just for this time of year.
when it comes to gift buying the kids always come first. they have a set amount of money that i spend on them which is usually around £120. My eldest being nearly 18 always asks for the latest game, which is usually out before Yule, so he gets it when it comes out but he knows and is ok with the fact it is part of his yule gift. my youngest asks for Lego and art stuff. it is the Lego that costs a small fortune though, his art stuff is usually got in the sales months before. if i have money and gifts left in the gift box then the rest of my family and friends get a gift our of there but always at least a hand-made gift and card. (i make these too) Both of my boys are always very grateful of what ever they get which makes me very proud. for us Yule is about being together as a family being with those you love. As the rest of society doesn’t really rule the way i do things the rest of the year they certainly don’t now.
When i listen to a lot of people who worry about this time of year it seems to be around material possessions .. with the odd fear of family thrown in for good measure. i do feel for them but try to point out, if i have been asked my opinion, is that the world isn’t going to end if their kids don’t get the latest iPad, new phone, laptop, games consoles etc. they will live if they don’t have them and i can but hope that they will be grateful for what you can give them, why go into debt over one day? being happy is all that matters, there are people in this world, including this country that are going to wake up and not have a good day, they will be lucky to get meal let alone ‘the perfect christmas’ in our house we take a moment to think of them and those that have passed and gone before us and to give a moment to notice all we are grateful for.
i have but one worry over yule and that is, un like usual, we do not yet have our Yule log and we will need to get one soon so it has chance to dry. more wood also needs to be gathered and brought into the house to dry.
so for those that are stressing deep breath and realise that the world is not going to end, if you don’t have stuffing people will still enjoy their meal, if your kids do not have the latest gadget .. they are not going to die if they don’t get it, and it never matters what pressure you put on yourself for that ‘perfect christmas’ by the time it is time for bed you can look back and smile that your world didn’t end because you didn’t have matching wine glass charms and napkin holders.