This week is all about working on and getting rid of if needed any negative attachments we may have. These could be unhealthy habits, addictions, relationships with other or even how we see ourselves. It could even be if someone has a negative co-dependent relationship with us.
A negative attachment may of started out to be something fun that didn’t play too much of a role in your life, say a fleeting thought about how you do not feel you are good at something, has that one glass of wine every now and again turned into a glass or more every night? Has a once fun, loving relationship turned into one where it takes so much energy and effort to keep on that it has such a negative impact on how you wish to live and be in the world, to the point where you are losing or have lost your true being and are finding you have been pretending to be something you are not. Have you been taking other people for granted? Relying on them doing the things you do not really want to do, or see that you should do them? This can happen within families too especially if one partner thinks their work is ‘more important’ or if one family member seems to be the one who does all the cleaning, cooking, looking after kids, making sure lunches are ready etc. Have a good think about it and work out if you have any negative attachments that are in your life, fully examine the issues you find and start to make changes.
This of course isn’t going to go down too well with others and may indeed cause conflict, resentment and maybe panic. Others are not going to take to change too well but it has to be done for the sake of everyone involved, negative attachments within relationships for example turns into resentment as they progress, feeding the negative behaviour patterns making them worse until all sense of self has been lost. You have to remember it is for the best for everyone involved, but mainly it is what is best for you. You are not responsible for how others react to you making positive changes, especially if you are in a co dependant relationship; seek out the help and support of others when you need it, it may be hard but once you have removed the negative attachment you will be able to move on taking your learning experience into the rest of your life.
If you have any negative attachments and you do not feel you are able to work on them on your own especially if you have strong negative attachments to substances seek advice from your GP or local mental health team.