Small boy has a detention every day after school this week and a day in the bungalow tomorrow for the negatives he has received in the past week resulting in him being removed from lesson three times or more. He has not received a single positive since returning back to normal lessons.
I finally got through to the head of SEN yesterday and pointed out that i was concerned over the fact he’s not getting support in class, I’m not concerned whether the school have the money or not to have more TA’s when it’s my son who needs support and not getting it. Small boy doesn’t seem able to “make the choice” with his behaviour and the schools system of sanction after sanction for negatives doesn’t work. Last year was proof of this as are his increasing amount of detentions and sanctions this year. I’m actually wondering if the school are under the impression that his eratic behaviour at home gets him his own way, because it doesn’t. Not even when I’m in the physical state I’m in right now
It would help if I got more support at home with him & having to do everything I need to but have accepted that this isn’t goin to happen any time soon, so because I’m on pain killers have had to set reminders on my phone for me to remember to check his routine.
I’m feeling reluctant to calling the school to explain the fact I’m on meds so can’t support him as much with home work, after all they have already reported that my mental health is having negative effects on small boy so goodness know how they would twist things if they knew my pain killers mean even I get confused with his home work.
Camhs are not being very responsive, my case worker from the ppss still has not managed to get a mutual meeting time with the EDSW so I’m waiting for her to get back to me, same with the school. It doesn’t matter what I seem to do, or how hard I fight I keep coming up against the same issues over and over again. My son and myself against a system that is supposed to be there for the benefit of the child as long as that child fits In with their ideology. If they dont then of course it’s not the system that is wrong an needs changing. Yes I know different social situations require certain behaviour, the same as know at school small boy is required to act a certain way. The school need to be doing their job in supporting small boy and teaching him these skills when I can not, instead of this happening they hope by punishing him when he gets it wrong he will then learn eventually the right behaviour. I wonder how long it will take them to realise this doesn’t actually work, especially when positive reinforcement has been proven to so many times. Oh no but the poor teachers don’t have enough time, and the system is severely underfunded … Well that’s ok then is it? Does this mean that my sons education should suffer even more? Let us remember who the adult and the children are here, the people who are still learning in life vs those who have had plenty of time to learn how to adapt to the roles and norms of a social setting not forgetting to mention those that chose to do this as a career. We are quite often told that teachers certainly don’t choose this career because of the money and holidays, that its because they want to help our children learn and grow improving future generations. So why is it that I only seem to come across teachers who are quite frankly too busy in making sure that boxes are ticked, and that the school is seen as attaining the many targets set for them to reach. If your child is like my eldest son for example, not getting into trouble at school, reaches either the score matching their age And higher then the school love it, give those children top parts in plays, class assemblies, constant praise for continuing to improve. If your child is like my youngest where their behaviour may be more challenging through no choice of their own then they are labeled as troublesome, from a bad home where the issues must be coming from there because the school can’t be to blame.
The whole thing is wearing me down and having an impact on my health. And now that I have had a little moan I’m going to go and do some actual work.
Hope your week so far is going good, plans for the rest of the week? Mine are sorting out the business a little more, getting information together to out towards the next steps of getting the retreat oh and not to mention sorting out my winter fae outfit for Saturday. All while keeping ontop of everything else.