I’ve been spending the past couple of days either working at putting stock up on folksy or researching ways of helping small boy. My house is a mess and needs a good sorting through but with everything I have going on I rarely get time to do what most would consider real housework.
I think this is something I’m always going to do because its in my nature, always looking for answers and thinking about everything.
I’ve decided to give picture prompts a go to see if this will help him get to grips with a routine without me constantly having to remind him. He has a list on the wall but its written and like most things gets distracted whilst reading them resulting in me having to give verbal prompts, which then starts the chain of him reacting to me ‘nagging’ and with his aggression increasing over the past week something has to be done. The problem that I think I’m going to have is that he had them when he was younger and so I’m now conflicted with wanting to help him but without him feeling as though in treating him ‘like a baby’ and trying to talk to him about these things when he’s in this mind set comes with its own mine field. Affording to buy these things though isn’t an option as the ones I have seen are stupidly priced so if I do decide to go a head in going to be making them myself, with the help of small boy of course. It’s been recommended that I ask some companies if they want me to do a review for them but I wouldn’t even know how to go about how to get the ball rolling on that front. Is there a website to link people or do you have to approach the companies
The research I’ve been doing is also surrounding how the fact he’s almost 13 is impacting on how he is. I’m really worried about his huge sense of being different and his longing to fit into and have a group of friends. Completely normal teenage behaviour but with the added senses that he isn’t like his peers from school. He is still having anxieties about the place too and is missing the friends he had there, but as their parents don’t like my boy its really hard for him to continue with these friendships. Which he takes personally.
We have met a couple of other home ed kids & I’ve noticed a huge difference in how they interact in comparison to schooled children. There is far less competition (a good thing in my book) but small boys picked up on this and has said it makes him feel stupid and immature.
There are a lot of judgments flying around in his little head bless him and its taking a lot of the day to keep him on track. We have a lot of work todo.
We are off out today though to get us out of the house for a bit, I’m a little worried as his reactions are all over the place and I’m not sure right now what will set him off. It’s only to the next town but it does mean a bus journey, which he is looking forward to.
Do you have any experience with teenage ASD or Aspergers children and fancy offering some advice? I am so grateful for the Internet and social media, especially the support from my friends that I just wouldn’t get from the majority of the people I know other wise. This isn’t because they are mean but because they don’t understand and have their own preconceptions about how things should and shouldn’t be done in a situation like mine, but as they have not had to deal with this type of thing personally and see life differently to me it can be quite hard.