That might be a slight exaggeration as right now all is calm, for how long i am not too sure though.
My eldest has got all of his stuff here now (apart from his yule decorations) you can tell as one side of my living room is full of plastic bags, and computer gaming things. He also has his cat who is finally getting on with small kitty.
The issue now is getting him to support himself. He is off to the job centre this morning and i really hope he starts to stand up for himself to get things moving faster than they are. I do not want to have to get to the nagging phase and put pressure on our relationship. I also have small boy to think about, he will not be able to handle the stress and arguments we use to have, My other half is also putting pressure on for things to be sorted.
I hate it. I do not like being in the middle, I am always being told that i can’t help every one and my answer is always “but i can try” I don’t understand why other people refuse to help others if they can, it does not make sense.
My eldest struggles with getting the self motivation or even the confidence to think that he can ever find the fight to improve his life. He is getting there but the slightest thing can knock him back to the point where he gives in and gets ill.
I won’t lie, i am worried about how things will turn out
Meanwhile in the rest of my life things are all over the place, yes i know they are all linked
Small boy is so hormonal it just isn’t pleasant, he did stop at a friends house the other evening, first time he has ever been to someone else’s house over night, a huge step for him to take and it was nice seeing him socialise for a while too. He does get the need to take himself off every now and again which can be seen as not being interested in his friends but then he brings himself back after a while. So that has given me a huge proud mum moment.
Many things have been going on, both of the boy’s have had issues regarding their fathers (which is all i am allowed to say) which has left them confused, hurt and angry. Some of it can be sorted out, some of it can’t. i am very happy to be able to call them ex’s that is for sure as i really am glad to be free from their drama.